Just a T-shirt ?

At what point can one get away with it? Only wearing a T-shirt? Is it really only casual attire? What makes it acceptable? I’m sure you’re thinking, “a lot of questions for a small piece of clothing.”

Here’s the thing, there’s always the issue of “appropriate attire” which our generation has lost sense of. The etiquette of what to wear and when to wear it. A topic i’ve slightly touched on, and probably one of the biggest reasons why I started this page. I think it’s fun that many of us use fashion to express oneself. I think it’s a beautiful thing, but I do believe that there are still some fashion laws that should be abided.

The “fashion laws” come into play when proper attire is expected for an occasion (i.e. job interview, wedding, funeral). The list goes on. Most of these occasions specify attire which some people still choose to ignore – almost a little disrespectful. I’m not talking about all white and all black parties, but events where attire determines one’s seriousness/motivation for a job, or simply looking presentable. In my opinion, unless otherwise stated, it’s at these moments I would not wear a T-shirt. Once again…that’s my opinion.

So enough of the fashion military stuff. Outside of the typical occasion, I’m ok with rocking “just a T-shirt”. It’s one of my favourite pieces when styling only because of the versatility, and comfort it promises. Whether it’s to bed, with a blazer, or a statement necklace for a night out – it always works. We express our ideas on it, our favourite team, or sometimes settle for a plain look.

To be honest, my recent trip to Vancouver catalyzed this topic. I packed so fast, only taking pyjamas, underwear and a few pieces including my miniskirt (signature BCBG piece) – no dress shirt. So I decided to wear my simple black T-shirt tying a knot right in the front. I felt so weird to wear something that I usually lounge around in but nobody knows or cares! I guess it’s mostly psychological, and I’m slightly being a diva. It was also at this moment I realized that a T-shirt isn’t always “just a T-shirt”, it saved my Saturday night outfit.

I know, so many words for a simple piece of clothing…The beauty of fashion.

Wedding Ready?

‘Tis the season, wedding season and it’s inevitable that someone will ask me, “what do I wear?”. The questions I ask is “What kind of wedding is it? Will it be hot, cold or humid? Formal or casual?”. I even ask what kind of food will be served. It may sound ridiculous but it’s a serious question. We all know certain cultures love to feed their loved ones, and I have no issues with that, however I make sure I’m prepared.

First thing’s first, read the details on the invitation. Most invites specify the attire which I must say is very helpful (*useful tip for those who plan on tying the knot). Most of the time a formal attire is expected. What’s formal anymore? That’s another post for another day. For those who don’t know anymore, you definitely want to dress up. I always say, it’s alway better to be over than under. Pull out the pearls, Swarovski crystals and cubic zirconias (or diamonds). Go crazy. It’s an occasion and certainly something great to celebrate. So don’t be shy to be SEEN.

For a summer or hot destination wedding, keep it loose and flowing. Maybe a long dress, off the shoulder, with a bottom that moves with the wind – literally. The last thing you want is clingy material in the heat. I’m from Montreal, and believe it or not that city feels those hot and humid summers. I myself have made the mistake of wearing the wrong thing, and felt drips of sweat rolling down my legs and onto my feet (TMI, sorry). The point is that you always want to be comfortable. Make sure the material is light and non-restrictive. You may want to grab a shawl for the night, just in case the temperature drops drastically.

Autumn and winter weddings. I hope for your sake you don’t get invited to a mid-February wedding. It happened to me once. Let’s just say I was sipping on more tea than wine. If that’s the case, make sure you go with the thicker material. Something fitted and long-sleeved. Another great look is a princess skirt as a bottom and a fancy crop top to complete the outfit. You might want to do a thick cashmere shawl or even a faux-fur shrug (I won’t judge you if you wear real fur). These pieces usually dress up your look, with the right accessories of course. I also suggest wearing tights or nylons in cooler temperatures, as it’s more fitting and adds class to the outfit. That’s just me though.

This past weekend I attended my friend’s wedding in British Columbia, Canada. It was honestly one of the most beautiful weddings I’ve ever witnessed. To be honest, before going I had no idea what to wear (i know, not a real problem). An outdoor wedding in June, and on the mountaintop. Although it’s summer, it still meant I had to take backup layers for this wedding because those BC mountaintops are chilly. Lucky for us the weather was beautiful and although chilly on the mountain, the sun kept us warm during the ceremony. My dress was from Nordstrom, by Bardot and although not loose and flowing, it was just perfect. The day wasn’t too hot, and it definitely cooled down at night. I showed off my open shoulder with an updo bun, and wore my simple “diamond” button earrings with a dainty necklace. I’ll also say that my Lulu Guinness lips clutch completed my outfit, and held more nonsense that I could imagine.

It’s important to look good and fit in at a wedding. As guests we end up in countless pictures and videos – memories that last a lifetime. Sometimes it just takes a little more thought to find the perfect outfit for a long day.

Wearing Cause

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Most of us may already know that beauty and fashion are multibillion-dollar industries. It’s quite evident that I contribute as a consumer, also because it’s my hobby. No guilt there yet. However, I do confess that I feel the guilt when I think about where my money could or should have gone. I’ve become more mindful of my fashion/beauty spending, and have been doing research on how I can contribute to local or international charities/foundations while shopping. I know, the first thought most of us have is, “how do we know are money is going where they say it’s going?”.  I ask myself that all the time when asked to donate. Sometimes I’d rather personally give my money to an individual or cause to know it’s in fact making a difference. So it’s understandable that there may be that skepticism when giving away money. I don’t blame anyone because I’m a skeptic myself! In any case, I do my research on different companies and organizations, and I use my discretion on the cause.

With that said, I’m sure you’re wondering what a picture of me chilling on my couch has anything to do with giving back. This week I decided to use M.A.C’s Viva Glam.  This line is a public charity which donates to an AIDS fund. Every penny of their sales from the product line go straight to the fund which was established in 1994. I’m also proud to mention that it started in the lovely Toronto (#OhCanada). This has since evolved over the years and has touched the many lives of those affected by AIDS/HIV. It also brings educational programs to communities to teach people how to prevent the disease. Since it’s establishment many celebrities such as Nicki Minaj, RuPaul and Rihanna have been faces of the product line, but most importantly voices for the cause.

The cause I’m wearing today is Viva Glam III on my lips, and I love how it perfectly matches my kimono. I may not be a spokesperson for a cause…yet, but I believe each person can make a difference while doing something they love. #VIVAGLAM #WEARINGCAUSE

Out of the Closet and in the Bag

This past long weekend I jetted off to Costa Rica. It was my first visit, but it definitely won’t be my last. Four days was too short that it wasn’t sweet – almost a tease. I met hospitality from the minute I walked off the plane until my return. The culture is warm, welcoming and rich like its ineffable sunsets. The food is tasty with a big Caribbean influence, something very familiar to me. I’m ashamed to say that I stayed at the JW Marriott Guanacaste (20 minutes from Tamarindo Beach) only because as beautiful as Costa Rica is I was not doing myself any justice by staying so remote #dontjudge. A big however, it was one of the nicest resorts I’ve ever stayed at, with impeccable service and perfect for a short weekend getaway.

If you know me, you know that I hate baggage. That includes life baggage but staying within context I’m talking about packing. I figure the less things I travel with, the less I have to worry about. Put it this way, I’ve done national and international pageants with one piece of luggage. Crazy? I think not. As a woman who mostly travels to warm countries, my pieces are usually small and light. The typical trick – roll everything, and mix and match – it’s the key to traveling light. I know, most of the time we don’t want to wear the same thing. To be honest, when you change things up and accessorize, very few people notice or even care!

What to pack? : My essentials are my toiletry bag which I make sure to keep everything under 100 ml. This usually holds my essential hair and makeup products, creams, lotions, toothbrush, toothpaste, etc. Enough underwear…maybe that extra one for unexpected layovers. For accessories I usually carry sunglasses, earrings, and necklaces. At least two pairs of practical shoes or sandals plus running shoes which I wear during travels because they’re heavy. A camera because I love to capture every moment. Last but not least, my clothing. I might pack one pyjama, but to be honest I usually sleep in underwear, especially if where i’m staying is hot #TMI. I make sure to have at least two leggings, one to travel in and the other matched with a sports bra for working out. A couple tank tops only because they go with almost everything and take up no space at all. One or two summer dresses, one skirt and my bikinis of course. One of my tricks is to make sure that most, not all, of my pieces are practical in colour which makes it easier to mix and match. Statement belts or necklaces will also dress up your outfit for a night out. It may sound like a lot, but so far these items only take up three quarters of my bag. I usually fill the rest with smaller items if necessary, like a belt, socks, and my travel blanket #yesihaveablankie #imalwayscold. Also, make sure to leave a little space for souvenir shopping.

All of this is very possible with a maximum sized carry-on bag (9 inches x 14 inches x 22 inches) and don’t forget your personal item (i.e. duffle bag, backpack, tote bag). Most airlines will not charge you fees and you don’t have to worry about waiting on your bags when you get off the plane. That’s unless they make you check in at the gate.

Remember to make a list. Thank me later. That’s if you’re down with traveling light.


 

sunglasses (right) –> purchased in a little shop in Tamarindo Beach $9 USD. I always buy a fashion piece as a souvenir when I travel to a new country.

 

Finding “The One”

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I am not your fit freak, gym rat, or calorie counting kind of girl. Mind you, I’m a firm believer in healthy living – mentally and physically. I admire those who are disciplined to stay consistent by following a routine and a proper diet. I can’t say that I always do, however being in my 30’s has opened my eyes. For those who are at this stage or have passed you know that your body begins to change, and feels different. I’m just trying to maintain what I have, in the most simple and natural way. Feel me?! I’m blessed to have a partner and friends who are part of the lifestyle, and who motivate me. Looking good comes from within. You can wear all the makeup in the world and rock the nicest threads, but it starts from eating right, physical activity and being in the proper sate of mind. I have a gym membership, but when I’m not in the mood to lift that iron sometimes I go salsa dancing, swimming, take in hot yoga or get in an intense run. The gym isn’t for everyone, and that’s ok. Not everyone craves to pump weights in sets of I don’t know how many, or squat until they can’t feel their buns anymore. We all have different goals, which is why it’s important to find what works best for you.

It doesn’t matter where I am, at home or traveling, I make sure that I find time to get in a sweat. I always travel with active wear, at least one outfit. Sports bra, t-shirt or tank top, and leggings. I always have a hard time finding the right leggings to hug my legs, waist and booty in the right places. Like jeans, finding leggings is like finding “the one”. When you find ones that fit, you want to hold onto them forever and never let go. I do have to say that my top two favourite fits by far are…drumroll please…Victoria’s Secret and my favourite, Lululemon. I know, so typical for the Canadian girl to choose Lulu, but I have to give credit where credit is due. Both are always so creative with their designs, are great quality, and did I mention they fit so right?

Please note that although committed I am open to other legging suggestions, only if you can convince me they were meant for me. *wink*


black leggings → Lululemon

 

BBT – Beach Bum Threads

 

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I’m a wanderlust…well I try to be when time permits. Like many, I travel not to say i’ve been somewhere, but to explore, learn and share the beauty of what this world has to offer. I love to analyze cultural differences, with the purpose of understanding the human race, and trying to understand what divides us. I can honestly say that between food, music and people, we are not that different from each other. We are a species that mostly values love from family and friends. We love to have fun and we always celebrate with food and/or alcohol.

I travel light. I hate weight or bulk as baggage. One thing that’s certain is that I always make sure to pack my bikini. I’m a beach bum. With deep roots from the islands, the beach and sand is in my blood – I think it could literally be. To be honest, most of my chosen destinations are hot. I’ll get to the cold ones later on in my life when wearing a bikini is inappropriate. I get frustrated with the limited swimwear selection in Canada. I was devastated the day I learned Victoria Secret (except for Pink) ended their swimwear line. Ok…devastated is probably a bit dramatic. Since then I decided to be a little more patient. Not that I wasn’t already familiar with Winners and Marshalls, but let’s just say I stalk their swimwear section on a regular basis, it’s like a second job for me. Some people say they don’t have time for those two stores because of the chaos of mixed up clothing. I on the other hand call it a hobby. I love to go on a quiet “random day of the week” evening and take my time to look through the items. It’s almost therapeutic for me. Basically, I’ve walked out with some unique pieces, including swimwear. One of my most recent finds were these beautiful coverups by Kareena’s. For that elegant but sexy sneak peek look at a reasonable price one can’t go wrong. I rocked mine in the lovely Los Cabos, Mexico at the JW Marriott. They’re great to throw on for lunch or if you feel like hiding certain parts that may be noticeable to mankind. If you ever get your hands on these beauties just be sure to hand wash yours – don’t say I didn’t tell you so.


coverup → Kareena’s
glasses → Roots
earrings → Aldo Accessories

Never Judge a Person by Their Attire?

So I woke up for work on this lovely day and as usual I asked myself the same questions I do every morning, “what am I going to wear?” and “what’s the weather today?”. As I turned over and looked out the window and saw the spring snow falling, I only wanted to slip on my Lululemons with my big hoodie and rock it to work. Of course I would never do such a thing. I snapped out of it and slipped on my comfy sear skirt and cotton turtleneck to complete a sharp black ensemble. However, I must admit I have my days where I just want to roll into work like it’s a Saturday morning, and then I remember those words.

Growing up I was always told to look presentable, it doesn’t matter where you’re going – school, work or a late run to the grocery store for that Haagen Dazs (guilty!). You never know who you’re going to meet. They say you should never judge a book by its cover. At times I find it a little hypocritical in the sense that the first thing we see when we meet someone is what they’re wearing. Even without speaking to someone before they open their mouth, the human mind automatically begins judging and formulating biases. This could be based on race, physical features, scent, and yes, clothing. The “cover” in this context is overall appearance. Is it right? No, but we can’t always control human nature. Although we should not trust too much in appearances, it’s still the first thing we see.

A huge part of my career is interviewing people on a daily basis. Because of that, the first thing I’m drawn to when I meet people is their appearance. Although this is technically the last criteria I judge them on, it’s still the first thing I see. Keeping in mind that not everyone can afford the wardrobe of a superstar, however it’s not about who you’re wearing but what you’re wearing, where and how you’re wearing it. The truth is we live in a time where people don’t respect attire. We wear running shoes and flip-flops to weddings, jeans to church, and baseball caps in restaurants. We’ve lost the sense of style. The fun in dressing up, and even dressing down at appropriate times.

I always say that it doesn’t take much to look presentable. With the right clean threads, a smile, and a final touch of confidence, anyone can look good. But to feel good, that starts from within.


skirt → Rudsak
turtleneck → Wilfred
shoes → BCBG
mug → Winners